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Forever Middle Aged

Hi. Ever ask yourself, “What is aging?”

No, really. What is this concept of a person growing “older”?

Most educated people know that time, the thing we measure with clocks and calendars, is not a “real” substance. It is a measurement we humans find useful when trying to get things done Time is really just something which maintains us, organizes us, greets us, haunts us and controls us.

“Control us.” Ahhhh, now there’s an interesting concept, to say the least. How can anything which is but an explanation of something which does not have physical substance and is described by mankind as if it were a supra-dimension, control sentient beings like ourselves  proven to be the highest form of physical life on this planet? But that is exactly what this concept we call time does with mankind.

We awaken in the mornings, usually according to when we tell our clocks (our miniature robots) to awaken us. We routinely take showers, fix faces, dress and prepare ourselves for the day to come. After eating whatever we call our morning meal, we rush off to face our daily duties. This must be done at this time, that must be done at that time. A meeting at 10am, lunch at noon, another meeting at 2:00pm. The days roll on quite normally usually with many people being adept at entering things needed to be done for either business or personal purposes in their personal calendars, rather that be a pocket notebook or on a computer.

It all works quite well, unless there comes an unexpected event which causes an interruption in the flow of what has been scheduled on one’s calendar. Then suddenly, without warning, time is interrupted and a person feels distress when thinking of what they shall do with all this stuff on their calendar. Most people seem to get through it well enough by sliding things scheduled into new spots. But some, however, panic and become disorganized and confused to the point of sometimes all we can think to do is to run home, slam the door behind us (locking it) and going to bed to hide.

Soon, however, the reality of time catches up with us and we realize that we cannot hide from our responsibilities because the clock keeps ticking. And, well, we keep getting hungry and the bill collectors keep calling.

While time is not able to be touched, seen nor in any other physiological way “observed,” it is quite real. Like distance takes one from one point to another. Time influences physical objects by its existence and its passage. A house can set empty, with no one living in it, for 20 years with no one caring for it> By the end of that 20 years that house will be in very poor condition. However if that same house is lived in, cared for and properly respected it will appear better and possibly larger than it was when first built. Either way time has shown an effect upon the building. Simple evidence that time is real.

All things are effected by time in this way. Even people – us. It’s inevitable. Its most likely part of the reason why we humans decided time is important enough to need to develop a way to measure it.

One of the fun aspects of counting time for the human lifespan is a period of time, at least here in the U.S. called “middle age.” That period of time from about 45 to 65 years of age which marks a transition from younger adulthood and “old age.” It’s a time when we hear the jokes about middle-aged men who buy themselves fancy sport cars, create elaborate lifestyles and oft-times getting remarried to “dreams.” And middle-aged women often find their way, finally, into the workplace, and doing things they had only dreamed of while a youth and while raising their families. But the fun cliché’s are not as innocent as we might want to believe.

At this age we become painfully aware of our inability to be immortal. We begin to realize that we don’t have the same physical abilities of when we were youths. Many of us do not have the ability to be accepting of these proofs of the reality of time and its effects upon us, so we try to fight it –to hide it, at least from ourselves But wigs, mascara and beautiful cloths are usually just not enough.

It takes more than physical images to fight the march of time. It takes real thinking. It takes real faith.

I am to be 70 years of age toward the end of this year. Over what the Oxford Dictionary says is considered “middle-age.” But before my middle-aged years began I started joking that I would be perpetually “middle aged.” I mean, why not? These have been some of the best years of my life.

“Oh, so you’re now an old man,” you declare. Am I? Statistics show that on a worldwide basis the number of octogenarians and those older have increased on a worldwide basis tremendously over the past century. It is now predicted that the number of people reaching and going beyond age 100 will be commonplace within the next 30 years. The researchers like to claim that it’s our modern lifestyle and medical research which has made this longevity possible, but if we truly believe the ancient scriptures then we know there were people who lived much older than we of modern day. That is recorded in the  scriptures (See book of Genesis: Holy Bible). No there are other factors involved here than knowledge.

Now I’ve not been a worldly success in my life. I’m not a superstar. I don’t have a million dollars plus in the bank. I’m not recognized as a leader in any certain field and I currently am struggling with physical limitations which cause nightmares for most people to think of. But I am reminded of the many people I have cared for in my personal care duties as a “professional” care giver in the medical/social field who had medical problems much more severe than do I who were much younger then than I am now. Age has nothing to do with medical challenges. They just occur. But, because of my loving wife, and faith in a universal, creative God, I AM happy, fairly active and still somewhat independent of a great need for much care..

The difference is that when I was younger, I was trying to build a lifestyle which was given to me by parents, teachers and other counselors as being the type of lifestyle they thought I should have. I did not realize, until I was much older and had tried to live that lifestyle, that it was not my ideal lifestyle. Now the life which Genie and I live could be improved. That should not be denied. But we live in circumstances caused by my near blindness and deafness which we otherwise would not have experienced simply because we would not have felt the necessity nor wanted to take the risk to make the extreme life-style changes we made when faced with these challenges.

Since experiencing these limitations, along with a joint problem with my hip, we have moved into our own mobile home in a senior community on a large lake. Would that be inviting to anyone? This was done both because we wanted outside of large city life and to protect some cash we had inherited. It also helped us manage our money while learning to cope with my limitations. We have started this Web outreach set of blogs and Web site to try to help others be inspired to trust God and to use their creative abilities. This is something we both wanted to do most of our lives as we had both felt a call to Christian ministry when we were in our 20’s. . It’s been only through the passage of time, and the changes which came with it, that we have found the way to do this.

Most certainly, this all happened toward the end of my time in what the world considered to be my “Middle Age” years. But if you’ve known me very long, or if you’ve read much of my writing, you know I do not necessarily think as the world thinks about these things.

I decided, many years ago, that in my own mind I would forever be “middle aged.”

Say what? How can one do that. By stepping into the spiritual understanding of the Holy Bible scriptures and reading the words factually a person can then step outside of time even as is our Creator.

According to Christian thought Jesus, the Christ, atoned us from our sins when he was approximately 32-35 years of age. At that time, in the Hebrew culture of the age, that age of Jesus’ death would have been considered middle aged.

Spiritually, since Christians claim that Christ died in our stead, then our worldly lives ended at middle age with Jesus on the cross at that time. Simple as that.

Okay, so the theology of this idea may be lacking. But it’s fun. And it helps me cope with “aging.” And remember, Jesus did strongly promote the idea that if we but believe in him we could have “eternal life.” What better way to experience eternal life, or to explain it, than to state simply that I will be perpetually middle-aged. Every birthdate I have can add as many birthdays to expect in the future as I’ve had in the past. So, on my 70th birthday in November, if I’m truly in middle age, I can expect 70 more in the future.

Yes, I say this is a fun thing that I do. But deep down in my heart I really believe it’s possible if we simply have faith.

Do you?

Let’s chat about it here in my blog’s comment area. Are you in “middle age”?

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Choices: Learn, Understand, Be Wise

Throughout our lives, every second of our lives, there is something which we all must do which will create the atmosphere of all which we will experience throughout the rest of eternity. We must choose.

Choose? Choose what, you may ask. How do we choose anything?

The simple fact is that no matter what we are doing, or even if we are doing nothing at all, we are making choices. Choices if by no other sense of the word concerning what we will be doing at that moment, if anything at all. Sound confusing? It really isn’t. Let me try to explain.

A choice is simply an opportunity to make a decision as to which way to go, what to do next, in order to accomplish what you are wanting to do. No big secret in that, right? But where the secret seems obscured is when the crossroads on your path seems to be numerous, the speed of the road gets rapid and the map which is supposed to show you the way to your goal becomes unclear and hard to read.

Every day we all make routine choices as to what clothing we will wear, what we will eat, how we will comb our hair (if we have hair), the route we will drive to work (if,  indeed, we drive to work), and so forth. Each of these seemingly repetitious, routine actions involves a number of smaller decisions like is this a work day or a day off which will determine if you wear work clothes or play wear. The only time these types of activities do not involve immediate choices are when you have done the same thing long enough that the activity has become habituated and you no longer have to think of how you will do that activity. At least not consciously. But a choice has been made. Sometime in the past you decided to do something in a certain way, over and over, until such action became routine and planted in the subconscious until the conscious mind no longer had to be involved until you find need to change the decision.

Such need to make choices permeates every aspect of our lives, throughout our lives, and as such helps us to create our own view of the universe wherein we live. Do we see everything and everyone as being dangerous and out to harm us. A pessimistic attitude such as this can create for you a form of hell on earth and endanger you of possible psychological paralyses. This unrealistic view creates within a person the cause for suspicion of everyone and everything they come in contact with, and they often become frozen in their actions because they soon begin doubting even their own abilities.

However, the incurable optimist can often be just as blind to reality because they are so intent that “all is good” that they are blinded to potential dangers which could and most likely should be avoided. The key here is to first gain knowledge, then work toward an understanding of how that knowledge can be used beneficially and then to tempore the positive and negative information you can obtain about any choice or set of choices so you can make a wise choice between the directions you can go. You may recognize this as the message of the “Serenity Prayer” quoted so often.

A good example can be seen in the story of the hiker in the mountains who is wandering along a mountain path to suddenly have the chill of a low growl coming to him from behind. At the point he was at on the trail’s ascent, the hiker knew there was no other way back to the cabin than through the area from where he heard the sound. Not sure of what was creating the growl, he decided against that and tried rapidly to think of other choices out of the danger he felt he was in as he kept climbing the path. As the growls grew louder and the trail grew narrower, the hiker soon came to the end of the trail which, a narrow precipice was overlooking the town below from whence he came.

Decision time. The growl was still echoing to him and his imagination started being wildly creative. But he had to make a decision. Does he go back down the hill to face whatever was making the hungry noises? Not an acceptable choice in his mind, especially since he was unarmed. That would be a similar pessimistic choice as just sitting down on the rock in the clearing, enjoying the day, and waiting for his carnivore host to arrive and eat him. Not a pretty picture. The other choice extreme is to optimistically believe that he can overcome all situations and therefore decide if his 150 pound, nonathletic frame could fight the bear or lion behind him or should he trust that at the last moment he could sprout wings and be able to jump off the cliff and fly to safety in the town below? Well, obviously whether you be a pessimist or optimist, the logic of reason and reality must at some point set in and the hiker must realize that he cannot fight a bear bare handed, nor can he fly, and to try to do either of these things in this physical reality would be simply suicidal.

What could be done? The hiker remembers a way to clear his thinking by taking a few deep breaths and, while doing so, repeating the word “Relax,” quietly to himself. While doing this the question permeated his mind, in the form of a prayer, of “How do I get out of here, safely.” While doing this, the hiker suddenly became aware that, even though the trail ended where he stood, the mountain did not. It went, well, straight up. Now a new choice was having to be faced, but there was no time for an in depth analysis of how to climb this steep precipice. The head of the bear suddenly appeared about 30 yards away. The hiker instantly grabs a stone sticking out from the cliff and started to climb. He was not an experienced climber and had no special equipment with him. But by the time the bear got to the clearing where he had been standing he was well above the animal’s head.

Safely wedged between the cliff wall and a tree trunk growing from it, the hiker sat gratefully thanking God for giving him the wisdom to make good choices. After the bear had made a circle of the clearing, eating a few barriers and walking a circle he had obviously walked many times before, he went back down the path and disappeared. The hiker never knew what the growls were about. Knowing that brown bears are mainly vegetarian, he did not know if the bear caught his scent and was upset that an intruder was in his territory or something else. But the hiker walked back down the trail with a wonderful story to tell without fighting a bear or jumping off a cliff.

Most of us will never have such a dramatic story about decision making such as this, but we must all make decisions at all times. Do you put on your left shoe or your right first every morning? Do you take the back roads to work, or the freeway? Do you vote Republican or Democratic, or which candidate do I vote for in the U.S. election? What do you do about your bills? Do you believe in a God of love or are all things circumstantial?

Whatever you believe, the choices you make, are the reason you see the world as you do. Don’t like the world you see, change how you look at it, change what you’re doing, in short change your choices. But please, think and pray before you choose.

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The Successful Aging Plan

The “Baby Boomers” have arrived! We are now at the age at which our parents, grandparents, and so forth called retirement. But for us, that is a misnomer. We see life differently than did our ancestors; we always have – always will.

We grew up as children watching massive changes going on all around us, changes like people challenging the darkness of space in a realistic way for the first time in recorded history; people taking to the streets in masse to demand their rights as citizens; the change of our society from an industrially based economy to one of being technologically based, then later to being the world’s source for information and communications; and a political undercurrent pitting Republican rule by law against a Democratic power by the authority of the people philosophy slowly changing from being a major contender in world politics to being the leading world political system. We grew up with our teachers, friends, neighbors, spiritual leaders and even parents telling us of the importance of what was going on in our society’s current events and they encouraged us to get involved – and we did. And we still are.

We set out to change the world. We determined to make a difference in our surroundings. We wanted to use the science and technology being developed in the space race to help change people’s lives, to not only set foot on the moon as was Presidents Kennedy’s challenge to Americans when we were children, but to end hunger and poverty worldwide. But we soon found that not everyone was as fortunate as JFK in being able to set the societal wheels in motion to fulfill the dreams of lofty goals. We found that our dreams were often dashed by a society with established ways which forced many of us to comply or starve, and a world cowering under desks in training for the possible dreaded nightmare of a bomb too destructive to even imagine. So we complied and settled down into a socio-political system which, for many, has seemed to have grown more and more out of control, violent and corrupt.

But for the true “Baby Boomer” we have never lost our hope. We still remember what the teachers of the 60’s and early 70’s taught us about social justice, personal involvement, creativity and hope. Those are values that once a person learns them, and realizes that those values never change, they change the person forever. That is why the old way of looking at aging in our society is changing. Due to the way most “Baby Boomers” were taught to think and perceive life as a challenge, we are no longer willing to accept our senior years as a time where we sit around and wait for the inevitable to happen. No, not in the slightest. We no longer use the term “retirement” in the way our ancestors did in the late 1800’s and 1900’s where people were forced to “retire” because they had literally used up their bodies and minds in their jobs most often on meaningless tasks throughout their lives simply to be able to afford to care for themselves and their families.

Now the American society has successfully changed its method of providing its citizens’ basic needs from a base of drudgery to one of being intellectual merchandisers. What once was done by the sweat of one’s brow in this country is now done by machines, including computers, or farmed out for other countries’ citizens to do which, in turn, helps them earn a living. It all seems to be a remarkable, coincidental program but most of us know that the term “coincidental” is not quite right because this has all been brought into existence by a powerful, while invisible, group of planners working behind the scenes.

So now, my sister and brother “Baby Boomers,” what do we do with our senior years in a society where on the one hand we have fulfilled the 50+ years of working in the work-a-day world trying to be of worth to society as a whole only to be lead to believe that at the age we have or are arriving at we would be “set out to pasture” and allowed to place the workplace into our pasts? Society has changed, again, and we are now being told that we are too young, too healthy, simply too important to society to be allowed to quit working. And, because of our health, self-determination and, yes, youth we would have it no other way. Yet the very idea of politicians telling us the society cannot afford Social Security now, and the concept of people “retiring” is from laziness and instead of staying on the job we should have two or three jobs, angers many of us. I feel, and I’ve heard many others state also, that we paid into the Social Security and Medicare systems all of our adult lives that to say we do not deserve them is nothing less than a breach of contract by those politicians proposing those social systems’ demise. But the fact still remains that those systems’ planners designed a flaw into them which was not discovered until recently which we all must face. Due to population control, economic unrest and political misuse of the systems’ funds there is currently a budgetary crisis in Social Security and Medicare which causes it to not be as secure as we were once lead to believe.

So, what are we to do? “It must be nice to be retired,” my wife and I have had people comment. Well, not really. While it is nice to be able to move by a beautiful lake and to set up a home in a nice resort community with a lush green pasture in our backyard, this was not really our choice; not at this time at least. I wanted to work at least five more years but unexpected health issues with my eyes intervened and to be able to cope with that and not chance loosing funds we had in investments we chose to “go with the flow” and relocate to a more conducive place where we could have better control of our lives, protect our investment funds somewhat by buying a place to live, and create a space for us to work at home comfortably. But that green pasture soon did not look so luscious when we started observing the limitations placed on the cattle’s movements behind us, and hearing their bellowing when their calves were taken from them was heart rendering.

Retired? By societal designation only. I took Medicare at age 64 and Social Security when I reached the designated full “retirement age” of 66 which has made our lack of income for the past two years tolerable, but its supplementation is not sufficient enough to cover the basic living bills and the high costs of health insurance due to runaway costs of medical services worldwide, so we have to find other income in various ways. But we are content, happy that we are able to pay our basic living expenses and we feel like we still have a degree of control over our lives even with the turmoil of the forced changes in our lives. But retired? Not really. I joke that since I quit working for the other guy that I have worked harder than I ever have in my life. It’s true with the financial control I’ve had to make over our money, the move from one state to another, the challenges we’ve had trying to get me medical assistance and my personal attitude of coping with suddenly finding myself physically challenged with extremely poor eyesight from being a senior who before was rather well compared to others I knew prior to the awareness of my eyesight limitations.

But, yes I’m going to say it, if we can “retire” with limited income and not work for the work-a-day employer and still be comfortable, so can you. And we can help you lean how if you want us to.

There are six basic areas needed to be built into anyone’s successful senior years plan, which summarized are:

  • Spiritual – Everyone needs to recognize their spiritual base, what is yours? Who is your God? What spirit controls you? How do you find peace, comfort? How do you express life experiences and wisdom?
  • Mental Challenge – You must keep a positive frame of reference to be a successful senior. Are you staying mentally active? Are you keeping up on current events? Are you learning new skills? Only the inactive brain becomes the irreparable mind.
  • Health –Healthy or challenged you must keep yourself on the road toward health and live in a way to prevent accidents and disease. What does this mean to you? Do you eat healthy? Do you exercise? What do you do to prevent health problems?
  • Financial – Comfortable or challenged by money, its control is key to senior success. Do you have a budget? Are you able to stick to it? Do you know how to build one? Are you able to discover ways to earn creative income? What is creative income?
  • Social – In our senior years our social interactions become more important, who are your friends, family? Do you know? How do you respond to conflict? How do you react to others’ expressions of love, concern, or attempts to control your actions?
  • Diversions – What are your hobbies? How do you have fun? You may find that what you enjoy doing most can become the most important area of your life and even a possible source of income. Now you have time to develop these, if you will allow yourself.

As personal lifestyle coaches, Rogene and I simply help you review each of these areas to help you prepare for the time when you are able or need to quit your career or job and enjoy the fruits of your labors. But this is always easier to do if some prior planning has occurred. With our business, psychological and educational training, and our own personal experience with being forced into early retirement, we can assist you in your own personal review to make your transition from worker/professional to being a successful senior citizen with less effort and fear than you may think possible. Our charges for our coaching are comparatively low and are based on a pro-rata system which is fair to all income levels.

You can have access to many of our ideas and concepts by visiting our blogs regularly. Click to follow Rogene’s blog at to receive daily inspirational quotes and ideas on diet, frugal living and other ways to keep a positive frame of mind. Follow for more in depth articles about things concerning spirit, politics, investments and other things of interested to the successfully aging person. These blogs may, of course, be read free and we enjoy making the information and our thoughts available to you, however our expenses do still carry on to get this information to you so the revenue from our bookstore and other sales goes toward these expenses.

Rogene and I enjoy helping people. While we realize that not everything we say will necessarily be welcomed by everyone, sometimes it is best for you to hear (or read) these things so the challenges can be faced before they become major problems. That’s what we want to help you do. If you would like us to provide some personal successful senior coaching, please contact us via email at today and we’ll start your plan to be a successful senior citizen.

Also you may want to check out the new page on this blog called “Successful Seniors” where I plan to put tips and ideas to help you find ways to enjoy your post industrial years. And, by the way, check out Espirational Books & Gifts store:

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